It is very important that you maintain contact with your partner’s emotional and physical experience. If during this process, you notice your partner disengaging, not sharing feedback, stiff, uncomfortable, you must pause and explore what they are experiencing. This needs to be a gentle and kind process where you resist any temptation to take it personally or get defensive. If you sense sadness or notice, for example, they are crying, you stop and hold them. These are signs of what we call “flooding,” when a person experiences emotional and physical symptoms from feeling overwhelmed. Ask lovingly and supportively things like, “Will you share with me what you are experiencing/thinking/feeling?” Just listen. If they are not ready to share, that’s ok. You are providing exactly what you should provide by just being present with them and holding them. This is love in one of its best forms and something they may not have experienced before. This is healing."
Whether you and your partner are comfortable with the expression of physical love already or in repairing, restoring or further developing your sex life, it is beneficial to take some time to explore the wide array of physical sensations that the body can experience. PDF For this writing, I am using “have sex” and “make … Continue reading Exploring Sensations
PDF Download Have you tried and tried to have a meaningful and satisfying romantic experience and just can’t come together in a way that feels right for both of you? Is it clumsy or awkward? Does it lack the connection you wish? Is there no synchrony?Do you try to avoid sex? This is very common, and there … Continue reading When Marital Intimacy Misses
You've probably heard, sex for the woman begins in the kitchen when her husband talks to her lovingly, or in the afternoon when he sends her a loving message. If it starts then, what happens if you are angry in the morning exchange?
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Commit to teaching the children to sleep in their own beds so that you can reclaim the marriage bed! You never know (or maybe you do!) what a feisty game of Chinese Checkers will lead to behind the closed door of the bedroom after the children are fast asleep!