Yesterday was another dark day in this country, with innocent lives being lost to a preventable tragedy in Uvalde, Texas. Sadly, rather than rest our full attention on the victims and those who loved them, rather than come together in solidarity and support, we argue and fight about the root causes. Now is the time … Continue reading Assisting Children After a Tragedy
When Your Wise Mind Goes Offline
Bringing your wise mind back online.
Being Healthy In Trying Times
Chestfeeding or Breastfeeding
Does my profession make peoples' lives better or worse? Have you noticed that we come up with a name for something and then that something becomes a mental health epidemic. ADHD is a great example. Have a look at this chart from the CDC. (Click the image to be taken to the article.) https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/adhd/timeline.html The … Continue reading Chestfeeding or Breastfeeding
Of Course You Are Happy
Whether you are reading this on Thanksgiving or Christmas or your birthday or on any other "special" day, if you are not feeling happy, don't think you are the only one.
Trusting To Express Freely
It is very important that you maintain contact with your partner’s emotional and physical experience. If during this process, you notice your partner disengaging, not sharing feedback, stiff, uncomfortable, you must pause and explore what they are experiencing. This needs to be a gentle and kind process where you resist any temptation to take it personally or get defensive. If you sense sadness or notice, for example, they are crying, you stop and hold them. These are signs of what we call “flooding,” when a person experiences emotional and physical symptoms from feeling overwhelmed. Ask lovingly and supportively things like, “Will you share with me what you are experiencing/thinking/feeling?” Just listen. If they are not ready to share, that’s ok. You are providing exactly what you should provide by just being present with them and holding them. This is love in one of its best forms and something they may not have experienced before. This is healing."
What About The Tooth Fairy?
Q. I always tell the kids the truth 100% of the time, even when it comes to Santa, the Tooth Fairy and others. This gets me in trouble with family and friends who tell me to lie to them about it. When these conversations come up, I try to remove myself but if the kids … Continue reading What About The Tooth Fairy?
Do you struggle with this? Does someone you love struggle with this? Do you both struggle with this? Confirmation bias is when you have an opinion or belief about someone and as information comes in, you select in every piece of information that validates or confirms your opinion or belief and you filter out every … Continue reading Confirmation Bias
Parents I meet are constantly thinking they have to solve every problem. You don't... Every time we "fix" it for them, they learn to be more helpless. Don't steal their thunder! Let them start to problem solve.
What Has Become Of Facebook?
The lighting up of the emotional centers of the brain is not something to take lightly.