Whether you are reading this on Thanksgiving or Christmas or your birthday or on any other "special" day, if you are not feeling happy, don't think you are the only one.
It is very important that you maintain contact with your partner’s emotional and physical experience. If during this process, you notice your partner disengaging, not sharing feedback, stiff, uncomfortable, you must pause and explore what they are experiencing. This needs to be a gentle and kind process where you resist any temptation to take it personally or get defensive. If you sense sadness or notice, for example, they are crying, you stop and hold them. These are signs of what we call “flooding,” when a person experiences emotional and physical symptoms from feeling overwhelmed. Ask lovingly and supportively things like, “Will you share with me what you are experiencing/thinking/feeling?” Just listen. If they are not ready to share, that’s ok. You are providing exactly what you should provide by just being present with them and holding them. This is love in one of its best forms and something they may not have experienced before. This is healing."
Q. I always tell the kids the truth 100% of the time, even when it comes to Santa, the Tooth Fairy and others. This gets me in trouble with family and friends who tell me to lie to them about it. When these conversations come up, I try to remove myself but if the kids … Continue reading What About The Tooth Fairy?
Do you struggle with this? Does someone you love struggle with this? Do you both struggle with this? Confirmation bias is when you have an opinion or belief about someone and as information comes in, you select in every piece of information that validates or confirms your opinion or belief and you filter out every … Continue reading Confirmation Bias
Parents I meet are constantly thinking they have to solve every problem. You don't... Every time we "fix" it for them, they learn to be more helpless. Don't steal their thunder! Let them start to problem solve.
The lighting up of the emotional centers of the brain is not something to take lightly.
The absolute best tool for strengthening a family and raising successful children!
Winners on the field and winners in the home!
This here post is pretty serious. You have friends, classmates, coworkers, acquaintances, or maybe you yourself are in a very desperate place and feeling all alone. Alone can be a pretty dark place and this post is meant to let people who are in this place know that others have been there too and there … Continue reading When You Feel Deep Despair
Whether your marriage is strong or struggling, try this!